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Warning Signs of an Abusive Personality

Pushes for quick involvement; pressures for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.

Jealousy; excessively possessive.

Controlling; interrogates intensely.

Unrealistic expectations; expects his partner to be perfect and meet all his needs.

Isolation; tries to cut his partner off from friends/family.

Blames others for problems/mistakes -- it's always someone else's fault.

Makes others responsible for his feelings -- "You make me angry" instead of "I feel angry".

Hypersensitive; easily insulted.

Cruelty to animals/children (65% of those who abuse partners will also abuse children).

"Playful" use of force during sex; enjoys holding partner down.

Verbal abuse; constantly criticizes; says cruel, hurtful things.

Rigid sex roles; women are to serve him.

Sudden mood swings: switches from sweetly loving into explosively violent.

Past battering: admits to hitting women in the past.

Threats of violence: makes statements such as "I'll break your neck".

Adapted from Project for Victims of Family Violence, Fayetteville, Ark.

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